Anonymous said: I'm quite new to the wonderful world of sex. I'm very curious and open minded. But I am confused about two things. One, I don't know if I'm sub yet because I love challenging authority, as well as begging and being called 'HIS toy/slut' as well as the roughness and restraints. Two, I haven't actually reached orgasm before, by penetration. Is there something I can do to help this? Because I feel horrible when I have sex, and the other person can't make me finish. Sorry for all the questions

Just because you like challenging authority doesn’t mean you’re not a sub. It just means you’re a willful sub who enjoys being corrected. Given your fondness for restraint, begging and being called His toy/slut, I’d say the odds are infinitely high you’re submissive.

Orgasms - no way to know what is holding yours back. Reaching orgasm by penetration is not easy. Many women never experience it. In my opinion it takes a near perfect cock and someone who is well inside your head. No need to feel bad that you can’t finish, unless you’d like that to become cause for correction.

retrogasm:

Thank you Jesus!

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Anonymous said: Over the past four years or so, I've really been interested in Dom/sub relationships. Not that I've been in any, but I know how interested in it I am. The man I'm with won't go down on me or touch me, and I've always thought that's the reason I have never orgasmed. Do you think that's the reason? Or do you think it's because I'd feel more pleasure being a submissive? Is it mental, maybe? Lots of questions, I know. I'm just extremely confused...

Not going down on/touching you is a fireable offense.

No Cobra coverage, no severance package.

I doubt that’s the only reason you haven’t had an orgasm yet. Not all women can experience a vaginal orgasm, so you’re not alone in that regard. But I’ve known women who were convinced they could only orgasm via the clitoris and had that notion knocked to the curb.

Whether you experience more pleasure as a sub is something you can only discover by allowing yourself to submit. 

All sex is mental. Like Oscar Wilde said - everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.

No need to apologize for questions about sex. Most of humanity would like to ask more.